One of the primary premises behind hypnosis is that humans develop their subconscious belief systems at an early age. Children soak up everything going on in their environments, and many of the things they experience stick with them as foundational beliefs about who they are, what their expectations are, and even their own level of worthiness. Naturally, they get many of these beliefs from Mom and Dad.
I'll give some examples of the above paragraph. A child who has a parent who is always critical, may grow up thinking they are "dumb, lazy, will never amount to anything," or perhaps they may even be told, "I wish I had never had you." This child, if he or she hears these criticisms often ehough, may accept them as truth. Not the truth, but their truth. If his happens, this child might grow up thinking since they will never amount to anything, nothing is worth trying for; i.e., a student who may have plenty of intelligence, but no motivation. Feelings of worthlessness manifest themselves by way of self-sabotage; growing up believing that life is a struggle and "money doesn't grow on trees!" may lead a person in the direction of financial struggles. Why? Because that is what he or she believes about the world in which they live.
Negative patterns, as mentioned in this website, are a sure sign of someone who more than likely has some negative, self-defeating or self-limiting beliefs. The real damage here can occur when someone realizes they have a negative pattern, and they think, "I keep doing this and I keep getting burned; therefore, I won't do this any longer." This type of thinking is most commonly applied to failed relationships, or changes in one's lifestyle (weight loss, substance abuse, that type of thing). The "what's the use" attitude is a concession that "I really must be flawed." Wrong, wrong, WRONG! Change the beliefs that reside in the subconscious mind, and you will change your behavior. Changing your behavior will give you different results. When you experience a similar failure repeatedly, that is the Universe in its INFINITE GENEROSITY giving you another chance to try a different approach! How disappointing would our lives be if we got one chance at everything, and nothing afterwards? You blew it with your high school sweetheart? Too bad for you, you'll never meet anyone again the rest of your life! You wanted to stop smoking and failed? Too bad, you'll have to smoke the rest of your life, and on and on. Hypnosis is one of the most effective and efficient ways to change negative beliefs about yourself. Period.
Back to my lovely daughter and her beautiful new daughter. If I had known back then when I was a new Dad what I know now, I would have told my children every single day how wonderful I thought they were, how smart, how talented, how loving, how forgiving, how compassionate, how they have the ability to see the good in everyone they meet, how they look for the good in all situations, how they appreciate all the wonderful things in their lives, and so forth and so on. Every day. Naturally, they heard many of these things from their Mother and I, and hopefully all parents tell their kids the same things. I'm talking about doing it with purpose. As you teach your children how to count or be potty trained, teach them their own self-worth, too.
I've already had some practice with this with my first grandson, a gift from my other lovely daughter, who turned 1 earlier this year. I tell him these things, because I know if he hears them often enough and in the right setting, these will become his deep-seeded subconscious beliefs. That he can grow up to do or be anything he sets his mind to. That life is good and he is part of life; therefore he is good. Often he goes about whatever he's doing when I tell him these things: playing or getting into something! But not always; sometimes he will stop and look up at me and listen for a while. I fully believe that these are the times when he, on some level, knows that what I'm telling him has some significance. I love those moments.
If you have children, grandchildren, nieces or nephews, or if you're a caretaker for little ones, I urge you to fill their heads with loving and self-loving thoughts and sentiments. Often. Even if they are too young to understand every word, the intention and energy behind the words will be felt and welcomed. What do you have to lose, even if you don't believe this could work? You may never know what difference your words of encouragement may make years down the road for this little one, but that doesn't mean your words may not make that difference.
To help a child grow up believing in himself or herself, I don't believe, can ever be detrimental. Try this with the little souls in your life, and see if you don't also feel better when you do this. It's a gift that can pay such dividends later on in life, it's worth giving now.
And while you're at it, tell yourself some of these same things, too; you know, take it easy on yourself...