You can't take yourself too seriously. Any self-aggrandizing is met with eye-rolling, cat-calls (some suitable for print, some not), and treatment that could best be described as "humbling." Humiliating might be a more apt way of putting it, but I don't want you to get the wrong idea about this group.
You need to be into sports. This group is a combination of childhood friends, guys that met in college (that's where I came into the picture), and the rest were brought together by that social phenom - rec league basketball.
You need to have a good sense of humor. Teasing each other has been made into an art form with this group, and if you aren't able to dish some of that out, at least you had better have thick skin.
That pretty much covers the required criteria list. There are religious types, there are non-religious types, there are political conservatives, there are liberals, and there are moderates. There are married guys, there are divorced guys, and there are single guys. There are guys with kids, and there are guys without kids. We come from all walks of life: salesmen, guys that own their own business, and guys that work for small, medium, and large companies, and there's even a hypnotist in the bunch.
The fellas have been getting together for lunch on Mondays and Fridays for at least 30 years. I moved out of state for 10 years and have been back for almost 20 years, and in regards to the weekly lunches, it was as if I had never left. We don't eat at fancy places, and we've seen our share of them go out of business over the years. I rarely make the Monday lunches, but rarely miss a Friday one. I've been calling it my 10 dollar therapy for many years. Some of the wives are very close friends, but only a handful. Oh, they will all get together socially on occasion, but not nearly as often as the fellas do. We play poker (those of us who partake) sometimes, several have season tickets for Utah football (alas, not my alma mater, but I have more or less adopted them as my "second favorite team").
When I moved away from Utah, my parents still lived here, and it was a toss-up who I missed more sometimes, my family or the fellas. I had a handful of close friendships that developed out of state, but nothing that could match this situation in sheer numbers.
So, why am I choosing this topic to blog about? What in the world does this have to do with hypnosis or anything else I've written about? I'll get to that.
What common thread can keep a group of guys from all walks of life together as close friends for this long? (Hint: it isn't sports or crummy buffet lunches.) You've heard that birds of a feather stick together, right? Ain't it the truth? Why do birds of a feather stick together? Two words: Vibrational Frequency. Everything in the Universe vibrates at its own frequency. Humans are an elite group, in that our frequencies can fluctuate depending on how we feel physically (when we are sick we vibrate at a lower frequency), mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. In addition to this rollercoaster ride of vibrational frequencies you might be on, you also vibrate at a certain level most of the time, when you aren't way up or down physically/mentally/emotionally/spiritually. This "average vibrational frequency" will have the most influence, I believe, on the types of people you find yourself surrounded by. If you find yourself working with a lot of angry people, or if you encounter angry people multiple times a week, chances are, you are an angry person, too, overall.
In fact, by assessing the people you spend most of your time with, you can start to get a clear reading on the type of person you are! Vibrational frequencies are, of course, all part of the Law of Attraction. If you never read, listened to, or saw The Secret, you most likely at least heard of it a few years ago. It was all the rage. I'm not touting The Secret, per se; what I will say is this: The principles behind The Secret have been written about, discussed, and studied for a long time; well before it was ever produced and mass distributed. We all have attractor energy within us; the question is, are we attracting the things we want into our lives?
Don't believe that you have energy inside you that contributes towards the life experiences that come your way? Here's a simple experiment you can try (and yes, it was mentioned in The Secret, but by golly, it really works). Anytime you're out driving, and headed to a destination where parking is challenging, start focusing on finding a great parking spot, close to the entrance of wherever you're going. A few minutes before you arrive, imagine some nice man, woman, or young driver just getting into their car, right at that moment, and preparing to pull out of their space, leaving it vacant for you. Imagine thanking them as you see them pull out, and you gliding right in behind them. The first few times that a primo parking spot opens up for you, you'll be surprised, and if you lean towards the cynical side, you'll chalk it up to coincidence. Stay at it, however, and you'll soon change your mind. Eventually, if you persist in this Law of Attraction exercise, you'll just come to expect a good spot, no matter the situation or what your past experience may have been at that place. Again, this really works.
How do you attract a great parking spot, just by thinking about it? I actually spend a fair amount of time talking about this in my Self-Discovery Course, so I'll give you the condensed version right now. Simply put, thoughts are things. Your thoughts aren't these abstract "ideas" that float around in your brain. When you have a thought, there is a physiological reaction, just like there is a physiological reaction when you walk, run, eat, brush your teeth, and so forth. Something is going on inside your body when you have a thought. When you think of your thoughts in this manner, as real things that have their own power, you start to understand how, over time, thoughts are the foundation of your existence. Want proof of how powerful your thoughts are. besides the parking spot experiment? Here's an easy one. Unless you are sick or injured, what is the only thing that causes you pain? The answer should be obvious: your thoughts. If your thoughts have the power to cause you to be unable to sleep, or eat, or function properly when you are very, very upset, why wouldn't your thoughts also be able to be responsible for the types of people, places, and things you're attracting into your life?
I've thought about many of the things my own thoughts have helped attract into my life; some great, some I would have happily done without. Among the great things, though, I would have to categorize the fellas. From Dandy Don to Bacon-Boy, from Big Mike to Little Mike, that group of misfits is one of the best things in my life. I would never, of course, say this to their faces, or encourage them to read my blog, but that's OK, because I know they feel the same way. We've got a special bond that appears to be made of sports (it used to be girls, but now it's more like bowel movements; sorry, ladies) and car shows, but in reality it's made of friendship, cameraderie, and a happiness knowing there are a bunch of guys that would literally give you the shirt off of their backs if you needed it. My attractor energy did a spectacular job with them.
What are you attracting into your life? If you want to change your focus, and your reality, first step is to become aware of what's happening currently. If you're interested in learning more, please contact me, because I'd love to include you in an upcoming course, or see you personally to help you change your focus.That's why I ask, "What do you think?" It's one of the most important questions you'll ever ask yourself. As you ponder the answer, please, takeit easy on yourself...