One topic that has come up more than once is when a student scolds me for helping her or him to become aware of just how much negativity exists within their thoughts (and therefore, their lives). It's the old "ignorance is bliss" argument, basically. And I always laugh and nod my head in agreement, because I've experienced this countless times in my life since my involvement with hypnosis.
Here's how this lamentation goes:
When we are unaware of how our subconscious mind actually controls every facet of our life, and when we are oblivious as to how much we have allowed negative thoughts/emotions/actions/behavior to dominate our life, we just chalk up the distasteful or woe-bringing patterns as "bad luck," or WORSE, our "lot in life." As if we are destined for unhappiness by our own Grand Design. I could actually spend two or three blogs discussing that, the idea of a Grand Design, because I do believe there is merit and truth in that ... to an extent. But, back on this blog's topic, many people (and I was a champion, believe me) wander through their lives just not understanding why they feel as if they've fallen short in their goals, or in just the overall pursuit of their own happiness and peace.
Now, insert my Self-Discovery Course (or countless other books, lectures, recordings, etc. that present the same major principles). One of the very first topics I cover in my course is that of becoming self-aware of what is really going on in our lives. How we allow our subconscious belief system to just take it where it will, with minimal awareness or input from us consciously. Once a student starts to realize that perhaps they aren't just unlucky, it gets their attention. What, I'm not happy about my life and I can do something about it?! Yep, they sure can, but they have to acknowledge what's going on first. So that step is usually pretty easily accomplished.
Next, after some more detailed discussion on how exactly they became who they are, the next step is for them to start focusing on who they want to become (well, technically, the next step is for them to start remembering who they are, but it's sometimes easier to present as "who do you want to become?").
My intent at this point is to show my students how to go about what I call "building your own consciousness filter." OK, that sounds weird when I write it out, so you could call it your "spiritual filter" if that sounds more palatable. What is a consciousness/spiritual filter? It's when you monitor your own behavior and reactions to the things/people/situations that pop up in your day to day life to the point where you, at first, ask yourself "How would my Higher Self handle this?"
Whoa, slow your roll there, Teach; what the heck is my Higher Self?
I consider your Higher Self to be that part (that already exists!) within yourself that is so emotionally and spiritually evolved, that it handles every situation from a perspective of ... Love. And so when you act as your Higher Self, you insert Love into the equation somehow. You're pissed off at the guy who embarrassed you in front of your co-workers on purpose? Love him, because he feels small enough inside that he feels the need to put you down. You hate looking at your body in a mirror, because it doesn't look like it did 30 years ago? Love yourself; you're not defined by your body. You had the rudest waiter in the world at your favorite restaurant, and it spoiled your dinner? I saw a refrigerator magnet a few years ago that said, "Everyone has a story, and it's hard to hate someone when you know their story." You don't need to find out why the waiter was being rude, because your Higher Self is satisfied in knowing that this guy does have his own story.
The idea is to practice (through self-hypnosis, of course!) allowing your Higher Self to take much greater control in your life.To do this, it takes a conscious effort at first, along with the conditioning of the subconscious mind. But once the subconscious mind is conditioned, that loving, forgiving, compassionate behavior becomes automatic. Because that's who you have become. (Again.)
Sounds plausible so far, right? Here's the trouble with this concept:
Once you're aware that you possess the ability to be your Higher Self in your day to day life, you then have no excuse ... not to. So when someone does say or do something that really pushes that one hot button you have - your emotional Achilles' Heel, we'll call it - then that might bypass your Higher Self and you go berserk. And for just a moment or two, that might feel reeeeeally satisfying, to just let loose on someone. But then you hear that sweet little voice in the back of your mind; that voice of your Higher Self, saying, "Hey, remember me?" Next might come a little guilt, along with the knowledge that if you had just allowed that part of you to act first, you would have handled the situation much differently.
As long as we're just being plain honest here, I should add that sometimes ... it feels good to be a jerk, even if it's just for a few minutes! This scenario is especially difficult for people who were, shall we say, prone to jerkish-ness prior to even discovering that their Higher Self existed. I can think of one person very close to me that would fit this profile: me! If I stopped to think of all the jerk moves I have made in my life, I would sprain my face from cringing so hard.
But here's the very cool flip side to this:
Your Higher Self is all-forgiving, and that includes, ta-daa, ourselves! And that is my response when a student chides me for making them so damned aware, heh, that they feel they aren't allowed to be their previous, uh, Jerkier Self. It's difficult if not impossible to act as our Higher Self all day, every day. So in those moments when I do allow myself (or choose to, if we're being honest) to put the filter aside, I don't mentally berate myself for very long. Typically, I'll say a silent (or verbal, when it's called for) apology to whomever deserves it, and let it go. The best part of this: I immediately feel better. That is how I know that my spiritual filter is an invaluable part of my life; I am a better person when I use it, You will be, too.
I know this topic wasn't really pertinent to the Holiday Season; maybe I'll touch on the post-holidays in a few weeks, and I'll do nothing but tell jokes since a lot of people are a little depressed after the holidays. I'll discuss you being your Higher Miser after all the holiday spending, ha. I do hope you're able to enjoy the holidays with loved ones. I've got two grandchildren who are at just about the cutest Christmas age (2.5 - 3.5 years old). My little guy was singing We Miss You a Merry Christmas earlier this week, and I don't care who you are, that's some cute stuff right there. Gifts, toys, and putting my Higher Self to the test by venturing into crowded stores this time of year aside, I do want to say thank you for reading this, thank you for your support, your friendship, and your love, and I send it back to each of you tenfold. You know who you are. And as I miss you a Merry Christmas, I also ask that,as always, you take it easy on yourself.